Hi guys,
Happy Monday. I hope you had a restful weekend and that you’re happy to see the start of another week. And if you didn’t – no stress, today is a new day with no bearing on yesterday’s events.
Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about how everyone around me seems to be doing so well in different aspects of life – starting businesses; doing placements and internships; going on holidays; engagements and marriages; having children; graduating with flying colours; getting amazing jobs; driving dream cars. The. list. goes. on. And that’s just the material stuff, talk less of the intangible blessings that I might not even be able to see. It makes me stop and think, what am I achieving?
I’m sure I’m not the only one who is surrounded by high-flyers. Make no mistake – I am intentional with who I associate with because I believe that “iron sharpens iron” and surrounding yourself with the kind of people who you want to be will ultimately help you to become a better person. My friends are amazing individuals and each of them inspires me to be better in more ways than they probably know.
But what happens when admiration turns to jealousy?
It’s human nature to want what you can’t or don’t already have. Sometimes we feel like we’re underachieving or not good enough when we look to our left and our right and see that our neighbours seemingly have more than us. So if you start to feel jealous or bitter about your circumstance, nip it in the bud right now! Your time is much better spent thinking about where you want to be and planning how you’re going to get there, than cursing your friend Joe Bloggs for his success. Hateration never has and never will be cute.
Visualise your success story, but be ready to celebrate someone else’s first. Be the type of friend who constantly raises your friends up; get excited about your friends’ achievements; build with your friends; sharpen your friends. Learn from your friends.
And lastly, try to get into the habit of picking something, even if it’s just one little thing, to be grateful for every day. If you’re thanking God for what you do have everyday, you won’t even have time to feel bitter about what you don’t have.
In short, be better and not bitter.
God bless you!
Wunms.
Love this post! I have recently felt like I’m underachieving compared to my friends but like you said all it takes is to shift your focus and start appreciating the little things you do have and have achieved 🙂
Mimi
http://www.mimibella.co.uk
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I know the feeling! It’s difficult but with time, you get more used to being thankful for what you do have when you make it a habit.
Glad you liked the post xx
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I agree when you said we need to lift each other up and be grateful for what we have 🙂
This was well written and very eye opening!
I wrote a post on my blog awhile ago called “Jealousy is not cool” if you want to check it out!!
http://herdaringthoughts.blogspot.com/2016/07/jealousy-is-not-cool.html?m=1
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Thank you! I’ll check yours out too 🙂
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great post ! a nice reminder surrounding yourself around positivity really is important
xo
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Thanks for reading Bella! Xx
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Loved thisss! Such a hard habit to cultivate but at the same time it is sooo necessary. I feel like this so much but using time to plan my future keeps me busy! Stay amazing love xxx
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Yay – thanks for reading Christina 🙂 I agree with you! xxxx
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This post is amazing, i can so relate i focus on all the negative happening and i forget to show that i am thankful for everything thats working in my favour.. Enjoyed this post a lot, thanks for sharing.
Ese Janta
http://www.esejanta.co.uk/
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Girl we are all guilty of this at times, I understand you! I’m glad you enjoyed though, thanks so much for reading Ese 🙂 x
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Love it. This is so so important. Visualising is key and not only surrounding yourself with positivity, but exuding it also. I especially needed to hear this message this week lol xx
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Definitely agree! I’m glad this was useful 🙂
(It was partly inspired by all the Twitter hateration I see on the timeline these days lol) xx
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Great post Wunmi! Very necessary reminder.
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Thank you! 🙂
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