Happy Monday. I hope you had a restful weekend and that you’re happy to see the start of another week. And if you didn’t – no stress, today is a new day with no bearing on yesterday’s events.
Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about how everyone around me seems to be doing so well in different aspects of life – starting businesses; doing placements and internships; going on holidays; engagements and marriages; having children; graduating with flying colours; getting amazing jobs; driving dream cars. The. list. goes. on. And that’s just the material stuff, talk less of the intangible blessings that I might not even be able to see. It makes me stop and think, what am I achieving?
I’m sure I’m not the only one who is surrounded by high-flyers. Make no mistake – I am intentional with who I associate with because I believe that “iron sharpens iron” and surrounding yourself with the kind of people who you want to be will ultimately help you to become a better person. My friends are amazing individuals and each of them inspires me to be better in more ways than they probably know.
But what happens when admiration turns to jealousy?
It’s human nature to want what you can’t or don’t already have. Sometimes we feel like we’re underachieving or not good enough when we look to our left and our right and see that our neighbours seemingly have more than us. So if you start to feel jealous or bitter about your circumstance, nip it in the bud right now! Your time is much better spent thinking about where you want to be and planning how you’re going to get there, than cursing your friend Joe Bloggs for his success. Hateration never has and never will be cute.
Visualise your success story, but be ready to celebrate someone else’s first. Be the type of friend who constantly raises your friends up; get excited about your friends’ achievements; build with your friends; sharpen your friends. Learn from your friends.
And lastly, try to get into the habit of picking something, even if it’s just one little thing, to be grateful for every day. If you’re thanking God for what you do have everyday, you won’t even have time to feel bitter about what you don’t have.
In short, be better and not bitter.
God bless you!