Blogmas 1 – Mental Health: A Problem Shared Is A Problem Halved

Hi guys,

How’s everyone doing? I’m feeling super grateful this morning because we made it to the last month of the year… the final stretch. Yes! It’s December 1st, which means it’s also officially the first day of Blogmas. For my non-blogger readers/anyone who just doesn’t know what Blogmas is… it’s basically a series of blog posts that I publish during the countdown to Christmas. They won’t all necessarily be Christmas related, but it’s an exciting time because it means more content than usual – yay! So here is the first instalment:

I’m writing this blog post on a noisy Saturday evening from the backseat of my Uber. We’re stuck in central London traffic but I didn’t want to wait until I got home or even later during the week to write this post because I wanted it to be fresh in my mind. One draft, no revisions.

So let me tell you about my afternoon. I’ve just left an interesting event A Problem Shared Is A Problem Halved at the O2 Think Big Hub in Hoxton Square, London.

The event was organised by Voices of Colour (VOC) and Half Full Not Empty (HFNE) and it focused on opening up a discussion regarding mental health within ethnic communities. When I saw Chenai (founder of YW Magazine) promoting the event on Twitter I was immediately down to support by attending.

I’m extremely interested and invested in mental health issues, especially those that pertain to my community. Here’s a little more information about the aims of the organisations involved:

Voices Of Colour ( VOC ) is a non – profit collective platform amplifying racial issues and topics for young people of colour in the UK. This platform was build to help young people of colour to learn and share opinions / experiences via various roots such as, workshops, debates and socials.

Creating solutions to mental health issues to empower young women & actively raising awareness about mental health issues in BAME communities.

Right: Juanita Agboola (founder of HFNE)

Naturally, I’m not really fond of attending events by myself because it can be awkward but that’s something I’m actively working on conquering.  But I ended up meeting some really cool people at the event. During the icebreakers, we discussed our dreams, fears, the past and the present, our strengths and favourite memories in pairs. It was a useful exercise for me personally because as I said a couple of blog posts ago in Taking Stock, I don’t reflect on myself as much as I probably should do. Now I encourage everyone to make it a habit because contrary to popular belief, your mental health is just as important as your physical  and spiritual health.

We also heard from the founder of HFNE, 20 year old university student Juanita Agboola. Like many British-Nigerians with mental health illnesses, Juanita feared the response of her African parents. Will they understand? Will they be angry? Will they just tell me to pray the demon out? But fortunately, her parents were extremely supportive and understanding. They came through for her when she opened up to them about her struggles with mental health. This, however, is not the general consensus perceived of African parents by their children on mental health issues. I believe we’ve come a long way in terms of the dissemination of knowledge about mental health. But I cannot deny that there is still a large divide in culture, which partly explains the fear to be transparent in some ethnic communities.

A contrary opinion raised at the event suggested that instead of focusing on heavy critique of parents within the BAME (Black and Minority Ethnic) community, we should turn our attention to “the elephant in the room.”

The Elephant in the Room: “Why do we not critique the system? We blame our parents, the church, the individual etc. But what about the system? The psychiatrists, doctors, nurses etc. have a stigma against us.” 

This alternative was raised by a young man who had “been through the system”. He was eventually reluctantly diagnosed with bipolar disorder after a long period of what he described as “having to prove [himself]” and the sincerity of his illness. His argument is supported by statistics read out by HFNE which revealed that African-Caribbean people are 3-5 times more likely to be diagnosed with mental health illnesses such as schizophrenia than any other group of people. African-Caribbean people are also more likely to be sectioned and less likely to be offered medication as opposed to counselling than other groups. We have to question why is this the case. Could the supposed elephant in the room argument have some truth to it? Is there an institutionalised stigma against ethnic communities that leads them to be most vulnerable in the mental health debate? It’s food for thought and this discussion certainly made me think about the perception of mental health in my community.


There was also mention of other communities such as Irish and Asian people. In particular, it was suggested that Western approaches are often culturally inappropriate to deal with mental health in such communities. There is a gap in cultural sensitivity and this may or may not be helped through increased representation of BAME mental health experts in the public sector.

We also discussed the pressure on young people to be strong and resilient, especially given the perceived luxurious western world that many of us grew up in. In particular, second generation immigrant children that feel burdened by the mixture of self-inflicted pressure to “be the best” and the very real expectation held by their parents and community.

After discussions and games, there was a panel – unfortunately I couldn’t stay for this part but I’m sure it was just as insightful as the whole event.

Overall I was really blessed by this event and I love what HFNE and VOC are doing. I’m happy that events and organisations like this exist in London. If there’s one key thing that I want to impart to you guys from what I learned today, it’s that you mustn’t suffer in silence. Whatever you’re going through, healing and recovery of your mental health starts by talking about it, even just to one trusted person. For more information on these organisations, do visit their websites linked above and twitter accounts listed below.

@HFNFE_ (founder: Juanita Agboola)

@_VOICESOFCOLOUR (founder: Ariane Takyi)

So do not fear, for I am with you;
    do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
    I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Isaiah 41:10

God bless you!



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6 thoughts on “Blogmas 1 – Mental Health: A Problem Shared Is A Problem Halved

  1. Thanks for sharing! I had hoped to attend but I couldn’t make it. I think mental health in BAME community is still a taboo subject. From personal experience, I have seen relatives talk around it but never directly address the issue. This makes it difficult to even offer help especially if the person is an elder. I hope with more open dialogue that at the very least our generation can do better.

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    1. Aww that’s a shame, it was a great event. Hoping to attend more of their future workshops – maybe I’ll catch you another time.

      And I agree, it’s definitely still a taboo. I also hope that more open dialogue can help us to do better for our children, their children, and the future generations to come.

      Thanks for reading 🙂 x


  2. Good morning Wunmi, well done on posting this important issue on your blog. This is an issue very close to my heart. I found your section on the pressure to “be the best” insightful. I suppose as parents we want the best for our children and want them to prosper maybe where we struggled. The pressure this puts on mental health can be overlooked. As our children grow up there is very gradually a person looking back at you who has very different opinions and views on what their hopes and dreams are. It’s all about supporting them to achieve their dreams in their own way. In supporting relatives with mental health issues I have found you have to accept the person you see before you rather than the sibling you expected or wanted them to be. That can be hard. I have leant so much from how my children interact with relatives and their own friends with mental health issues and it is inspiring. They just accept the person and build their relationships without prejudice. I hope access to good quality mental healthcare for BAME community improves rapidly and we can all play a part in this.

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    1. Good morning Gavin, thank you very much for your comment. I really agree with everything you said. Especially your point on “I have found you have to accept the person you see before you rather than the sibling you expected or wanted them to be.” It’s a great feeling to be accepted despite our flaws… and it actually encourages me to aspire to be better, instead of feeling pressure to be perfect.
      I’m also really glad that as a parent you’re open to learning so much from observing your children and their interactions. That’s really great 🙂

      & I hope access improves too. From talking with my peers that day, it’s clear that the issue needs urgent attention.


      1. Good evening Wunmi, thank you for the reply. Provision for mental healthcare does seem to be a postcode lottery which is awful. It takes determination and persistence and a refusal to be fobbed off. This is where family structure can be so important. However if you don’t have that then it must be hard. I will keep up with the efforts of the groups mentioned in your blog, I know that going people talking openly about this issue with their elders may not be easy but there is something amazing about the honesty of youth which helps break down barriers and taboos. I hope young people are encouraged and empowered to do this

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        1. Definitely agree with all of this too!

          Certain movements/organisations among young people are really paving the way to help future generations not have to deal with mental health issues in silence. I think it’s great 🙂


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