Finishing Is Better Than Starting

Hey guys, and for those of you reading this live when I post it, good evening lol. It’s an old school style post today, my Monday Musings in a Minute so I’ll try to keep it short and sweet.

I got some great news today! After over a year of sending countless job applications, taking all sorts of psychometric tests and receiving multiple rejections after attending interviews and assessment centres… I finally got offered a graduate job!

If you would have told me when I wrote my blog post last year about my university experience that it would take me this long to land a good graduate job, I probably wouldn’t have believed you. Me? Law graduate from a top university? Impossible! But the fact is, it did happen to me and there’s nothing unique about my circumstances. I wasn’t mentally prepared for the long road that was to come, but I’ve honestly learned so much from this whole waiting process. It has humbled me and it has helped me, but I’ll save the details for another day as today is just a quick one.

But the big moral of the story that I want to share with you today is that finishing is better than starting. Often we set our sights very high and we don’t realise what it might take to reach the goal. Yes, starting something is a great accomplishment and sometimes can be a difficult first move… but starting is just the beginning.  That’s all it is… Day 1 of __.

The road to completion takes real commitment but it is better and more valuable than simply starting the process off. It’s also tempting after we start the process to compare our rate of success to others – if it takes “too long” we may even lose the will to continue. We can get easily derailed through unhealthy, unconstructive comparison. That mentality is damaging and causes us to lose sight of the bigger picture. The bigger picture is that you started for a reason, and you didn’t come this far just to stop part way.

So whatever you’re working towards, I want to encourage you to keep going and see it through to completion. It took me 378 days and it might take you less or even longer, but don’t let it shake your commitment. Always remember why you started and if you get stuck along the way, don’t be too prideful to ask for help. No man is an island.
And to absolutely everyone that has helped me along the way (you know who you are!), whether through prayers, giving tips and advice, encouragement or just lending an ear to listen… thank you! This isn’t just my testimony, it’s ours. 

God bless you!


“Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, saying, ‘This person began to build and wasn’t able to finish.’ — Luke 14:28-30


The Untold Truth About #RelationshipGoals

Hey guys,

How’s everyone doing? Today I want to talk about a common phrase that I really dislike, #RelationshipGoals. I’m sure most of you are already very familiar but for the sake of context and to bring everyone up to speed, I’ll explain. #RelationshipGoals, “couple goals”, “bae goals” or however else the cool kids are terming it these days, is the phrase used to describe a couple that many people are envious of. They are seen as the ultimate couple i.e. the perfect relationship. Often the couple is famous, popular or somehow living lavishly (but that’s not always the case).

We live in a world where many of us are more concerned with other people than ourselves. Hence, gossiping and nosiness regarding relationships is rife and I’ll admit, sometimes it’s hard to steer clear of even though we should! Recently the termination of a popular couple’s relationship shocked the internet. The couple, who I’ll call X and Y, quickly shot to social-media-fame due to the success of their joint YouTube channel which primarily showcased and documented their relationship. After about a year or so of showcasing their relationship online, when Y announced that the relationship was over, the online community was stunned. In the aftermath of X and Y‘s breakup I read (yes, nosiness! *sigh*) a lot of dramatic tweets on Twitter which looked something like this: Continue reading “The Untold Truth About #RelationshipGoals”

7 Ways To Practice Self-Love, Starting Now!

Growing up I thought that “loving yourself” was a very normal, innate thing that comes naturally to us all. I thought that loving others was supposed to be the tricky part! In fact, one of my earliest recollections of Sunday School/Childrens’ Church is being taught to: love your neighbour as you love yourself (Mark 12:31). So when I heard that commandment, it kind of cemented in me this belief that loving yourself was a given, you know?


Alas. I am older, I am wiser (I hope, lol). I’ve realised that for many of us, from our formative years and even beyond, loving yourself is not quite so simple unfortunately (which is probably why we often fall so short of loving each other!) If you’re new to my blog, I’ve spoken openly in the past about some of my previous insecurities for example body image, feeling beautiful without makeup and how I’ve learned to embrace who I am through practising self-love and care. In the same way you can teach love, you can teach hate. We could get into the ins and outs of why some of us struggle to love ourselves — societal pressure, comparison, negative social media influences, abuse etc.  — but that’s a deep discussion for another day.

Today however, I want to change the narrative and share 7 ways to practice self-love, starting right now (well… after you finish reading this blog post). Go!

Source: 2013 Shay Cochrane

1. Be grateful

No matter where you are in life, give thanks (1 Thess. 5:18). Things could always be worse. Task: At the start of each day, list a few of the things in your life that you’re grateful for, before thinking about what you hope to still achieve. My friend once advised me that it’s also handy to keep a diary/note of all the great things that happen to you so you can reflect annually.  Continue reading “7 Ways To Practice Self-Love, Starting Now!”

Style: 5 Tips For A “Casual, But Put Together” Look

It’s finally summer but as usual the weather has been hit and miss in the UK. What’s new? I guess a little bit of breeze is nice sometimes, but inconsistent weather does make things a bit tricky in the wardrobe department…

Personally I like layering. If you get too warm you can take off a layer and vice versa, if you feel cold e.g. later in the evening, you can put on a layer. It’s quite a foolproof formula to deal with the UK weather.

Last weekend I went with Tomiwa, my boyfriend, to one of his DJ bookings. It was a joint 50th and 30th birthday party in a Hilton Hotel. I help my boyfriend out with little tasks whilst he’s djing so it’s important that I’m dressed comfortably and able to move quickly if necessary. So I knew that I definitely didn’t want to wear heels (I don’t really enjoy wearing heels most of the time guys, I prefer flats if I’m honest). But I still wanted to look well dressed, you know? Like I’d made at least a bit of effort to look presentable, ha!

I decided to keep it casual. I went for a blush peplum blouse; I paired it with my light blue mom jeans and beige loafers. For an added level of extra-ness, I threw my sleeveless duster jacket over the top. I really like how this look came together and it’s totally comfortable! ☺️


BOOHOO Duster Jacket & Similar| NEXT Shoes (Similar) | BOOHOO Jeans (Similar) | VERY Blouse (Similar)

My top 5 tips for a successful “casual, but put together” look are: Continue reading “Style: 5 Tips For A “Casual, But Put Together” Look”