Your Comfort Zone Is Killing Your Growth

Hey guys, happy Monday and happy New Year!

I’m back with some musings for your morning – today we’re going to be talking about The Comfort Zone Killer. Why? Because there’s no time like the present to check yourself. By staying in your comfort zone and being too fearful to try something different, you are getting left behind, whether you know it or not.

Being outside of your comfort zone will test your faith. | Photography: The Han Aesthetic

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Why Do You Want God To Bless You? | Attitudes To Breakthrough

Today’s blog post is inspired by a sermon given by a guest pastor at my church a little while ago now. Something the pastor said really struck a chord with me and I instantly felt convicted to share what God was telling me. Essentially the pastor’s message was about “breakthrough” and our attitudes towards it. Breakthrough is a term you’ll hear used a lot by Christians. But what exactly does that mean?

A breakthrough is success in a particular area or activity (especially after a long wait/previous failure), so it’s no surprise that it is such a popular prayer point. Who doesn’t want to be successful! But I think it’s interesting that we’re so fixated with success and achieving our breakthrough in this life when the Bible is very clear about the trials and battles we will face for the sake of following Christ. It isn’t all rainbows and glitter. Yes, God is the author and finisher of any kind of breakthrough, but the real question of the day is, why do you want it? And if you got it, what would you do with it? Here’s some food for thought on the topic… Continue reading “Why Do You Want God To Bless You? | Attitudes To Breakthrough”

Finishing Is Better Than Starting

Hey guys, and for those of you reading this live when I post it, good evening lol. It’s an old school style post today, my Monday Musings in a Minute so I’ll try to keep it short and sweet.

I got some great news today! After over a year of sending countless job applications, taking all sorts of psychometric tests and receiving multiple rejections after attending interviews and assessment centres… I finally got offered a graduate job!

If you would have told me when I wrote my blog post last year about my university experience that it would take me this long to land a good graduate job, I probably wouldn’t have believed you. Me? Law graduate from a top university? Impossible! But the fact is, it did happen to me and there’s nothing unique about my circumstances. I wasn’t mentally prepared for the long road that was to come, but I’ve honestly learned so much from this whole waiting process. It has humbled me and it has helped me, but I’ll save the details for another day as today is just a quick one.

But the big moral of the story that I want to share with you today is that finishing is better than starting. Often we set our sights very high and we don’t realise what it might take to reach the goal. Yes, starting something is a great accomplishment and sometimes can be a difficult first move… but starting is just the beginning.  That’s all it is… Day 1 of __.

The road to completion takes real commitment but it is better and more valuable than simply starting the process off. It’s also tempting after we start the process to compare our rate of success to others – if it takes “too long” we may even lose the will to continue. We can get easily derailed through unhealthy, unconstructive comparison. That mentality is damaging and causes us to lose sight of the bigger picture. The bigger picture is that you started for a reason, and you didn’t come this far just to stop part way.

So whatever you’re working towards, I want to encourage you to keep going and see it through to completion. It took me 378 days and it might take you less or even longer, but don’t let it shake your commitment. Always remember why you started and if you get stuck along the way, don’t be too prideful to ask for help. No man is an island.
And to absolutely everyone that has helped me along the way (you know who you are!), whether through prayers, giving tips and advice, encouragement or just lending an ear to listen… thank you! This isn’t just my testimony, it’s ours. 


God bless you!

Wunms. 

“Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, saying, ‘This person began to build and wasn’t able to finish.’ — Luke 14:28-30

The Untold Truth About #RelationshipGoals

Hey guys,

How’s everyone doing? Today I want to talk about a common phrase that I really dislike, #RelationshipGoals. I’m sure most of you are already very familiar but for the sake of context and to bring everyone up to speed, I’ll explain. #RelationshipGoals, “couple goals”, “bae goals” or however else the cool kids are terming it these days, is the phrase used to describe a couple that many people are envious of. They are seen as the ultimate couple i.e. the perfect relationship. Often the couple is famous, popular or somehow living lavishly (but that’s not always the case).

We live in a world where many of us are more concerned with other people than ourselves. Hence, gossiping and nosiness regarding relationships is rife and I’ll admit, sometimes it’s hard to steer clear of even though we should! Recently the termination of a popular couple’s relationship shocked the internet. The couple, who I’ll call X and Y, quickly shot to social-media-fame due to the success of their joint YouTube channel which primarily showcased and documented their relationship. After about a year or so of showcasing their relationship online, when Y announced that the relationship was over, the online community was stunned. In the aftermath of X and Y‘s breakup I read (yes, nosiness! *sigh*) a lot of dramatic tweets on Twitter which looked something like this: Continue reading “The Untold Truth About #RelationshipGoals”

3 Myths & Misconceptions About Blogging

When I say “blogging” to you, what comes to mind? Is it marble backgrounds on perfect Instagram feeds, green plants and camel coats… or maybe it’s discount codes, freebies and travel opportunities? I mean, yes. Yes blogging can involve those things. But I promise you there’s a lot more to blogging than that!

Since joining this community, I have observed that a lot of people just don’t understand how much work goes into maintaining a blog (whether it’s written, visual or video-content). I am writing this post just to shed some light on my views on blogging and I will dispel 3 myths and misconceptions:

1. Blogging is easy/not a real job

I don’t know… maybe it’s because so many people have blogs that blogging appears to be easy. But I’d like to dispel that myth right now! Blogging is not easy. The sheer amount of blogs that exist in 2017 means that in order to run a “successful” blog, there’s a certain standard that a lot of bloggers feel compelled to reach. This involves reaching a high level in your content, quality and consistency.


Naturally, bloggers of all niches take on several different hats to create said “successful” blog. Bloggers are writers; bloggers are editors; bloggers are stylists and photographers; bloggers are social media experts; bloggers are marketers… and once you’ve monetised your blog and start making an income from it, bloggers are negotiators and accountants! You catch my drift. So much goes into every single blog post and the blogging community has expanded so much in the last 5 years that many people are able to blog as their full-time career. For many, blogging is a real job, with a real salary, that requires real taxes.

2. There’s no room for any more bloggers!

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I hear this lie a lot. I read an article recently whereby Cosmopolitan interviewed a popular fashion blogger, Sarah Ashcroft. When Sarah was asked about her thoughts on the blogging community she is quoted to have said:

‘If I’m completely honest, I don’t think there’s any space for more bloggers in the industry everyone is one these days. It’s ridiculous.’

I appreciate her words may have been manipulated by Cosmopolitan, but even so, this is a common view held by a lot of people. It’s the reason why people often don’t start their blog or delay it even though they have the talent, the passion and there is a demand for their craft. Fear of overcapacity! Well to be frank, one source stated that in 2013 there were 152 million blogs. This number has definitely increased and it will continue to increase, blogs come and go every day. Does this mean there is no room for you? Of course not. Never let the fact that someone else has done something before you stop you from trying it for yourself, with your own spin. There is more than enough room for absolutely anyone to start a blog as long as you remain true to your unique self. The same goes for any creative venture – I wrote a blog post on this topic which a lot of you seemed to agree with earlier this year, check it out here.

3. Blogging is a trend – get off the bandwagon

This one is just way off the mark… *yawn*. Blogging has been around for years. What sort of trend lasts for over 10 years? Remember Zoella? Zoella is probably the most famous UK blogger with a massive following of almost 12 million subscribers. She started her blog way back in 2009 and she’s been creating YouTube videos for at least 7 years also. It is apparent that brands have clocked onto the huge influence and power that bloggers have in terms of generating sales and sharing their opinion on products/services to a loyal audience. Bloggers are called “influencers” because we are genuinely influential. Whether or not some bloggers have entered the community to join a bandwagon does not detract from the fact that blogging has been around for ages and isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. Blogging is the future!


If you liked this post and want to see more blogging-related content, do let me know. I love sharing tips and tricks that I’ve picked up so if that is something you guys would find interesting to see, leave a comment down below.

Bloggers – what are some other myths and misconceptions about blogging that you want to dispel – share them down below!


God bless you!
Wunms.

The LORD makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him — Psalm 37:23

Birthday Blog: Have You Checked Your Investments Lately? 

It’s my birthday! I’m so grateful to be able to see 22, it really is a blessing. The older I get, the more I am reminded of just how short and unpredictable life is.

Anyone reading this blog post today should be celebrating with me because you too have the precious gift of life. God chose to wake us up today, so what are we doing with that gift? Today, on my 22nd birthday, I want to talk about investment.

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Sometimes we tend to associate the idea of investing with finances only. Or we think that it is something that young people need not concern themselves with because of the fallacy that the youth have forever in front of them to live their lives. But I believe this mentality is shortsighted and false. Not only does it blatantly take life for granted but it is a waste of our very limited years on this earth. There is so much work to be done and we need to be thinking about our daily investments now.

Making good investment choices at whatever age, be it 16, 22 or 59, is so important! Three particular sections from the Bible come to mind immediately:

1. The Proverbs 31 Woman — The virtuous woman described in this chapter is clearly an investor. She makes fantastic investment choices that benefit both her and her family. She buys land and makes profit. She gives to the needy and she is resourceful with her hands. Basically she’s the ultimate #GirlBoss!

“She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.” — ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31:13-18‬ ‭


2. Diversifying Investments — Ecclesiastes 11 talks about making investments but also the importance of diversifying our investments. Sometimes it’s not best to put all your eggs in one basket because you don’t always know what will succeed. Being well-rounded and having multiple fruitful investments is wise.

“Ship your grain across the sea; after many days you may receive a return. Invest in seven ventures, yes, in eight; you do not know what disaster may come upon the land.” — ‭‭Ecclesiastes ‭11:1-2‬

“Sow your seed in the morning, and at evening let your hands not be idle, for you do not know which will succeed, whether this or that, or whether both will do equally well.” — ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭11:6‬ 

3. A little sleep, a little slumber — The following verses are a necessary reminder that it is possible to literally sleep your life away. Laziness leads to poverty and oversleeping is a terrible way to “invest” your time. Plan and prioritise your time, the Bible also says that there is a time for everything (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8).

“How long will you lie there, you sluggard? When will you get up from your sleep? A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest— and poverty will come on you like a thief and scarcity like an armed man.” —‭ Proverbs‬ ‭6:9-11‬ 


Ultimately, the Bible makes it very clear that investment is key to leading a good life on earth. How you spend your time and money will determine your future.

Personally, I’ve invested a lot into myself over the last year. Investing in myself has helped me to be a blessing onto others. For example, through honing my skills and learning new things (I told you investment isn’t necessarily always financial, although that can be a byproduct as you will see from my following examples). I started this blog, which I invest a lot of time and energy into because I see it as a resource that will one day bring me both tangible and intangible returns. I finally started my driving lessons, so I can be more independent and also a blessing onto others. My latest investment venture is my YouTube channel which officially launched yesterday if you did not know (watch my newest video here and don’t forget to subscribe!).


The point is, life is a gift and your purpose on this earth is not to be wasted. You have to find out what you’re putting your time and effort into and closely evaluate: is this a good investment? Who does this benefit and how? 

I want to be able to say that I invested wisely for my future, even in my youth. Don’t wait until it’s “too late” to start thinking about your investments. Ask yourself: Do you need to  start saving your money? Invest in a property or business? Start a business? Learn new skills? Quit your day job to focus on your calling in life? Spend more time with loved ones? Develop/deepen your relationship with God? Sleep less and do more? Or something else!

Whatever your answers to the above, I encourage us all to continuously pray over our current life choices and going forward, research and invest well! The time is now.

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God bless you!

Wunms.

All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty. — Proverbs 14:23

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“Everyone Has A Podcast Now”

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I saw a strange tweet the other day which was complaining that everyone is jumping on the start-a-podcast bandwagon, especially young black people. I was highly confused as to why, even if this statement were true, this is a problem to the writer of the tweet (who is a black person also btw)… but *sigh* haters will be haters. I would have inserted that particular tweet but of course, it has since been deleted. Even so, if you just enter:

"everyone has a podcast"

into the twitter seach bar, an array of sarcastic or belittling tweets come up.

Just in case you’re not too familiar, a podcast is basically an audio show that is typically spread over a series of episodes and these can be downloaded from the Internet. I like listening to podcasts because they are a great way to become more knowledgeable or informed on a certain topic without stressing yourself too much. They’re also very entertaining and I love the fact that unlike YouTube videos, I don’t have to sit down to watch and be glued to my laptop screen i.e. be distracted from what I’m actually supposed to be doing. Rather, I can put a podcast on and be doing multiple other things at the same time as listening – ah, the beauty of multitasking.

Truthfully, I never used to listen to podcasts and yes they are somewhat popular at the moment. Thank God the means to start up your own podcast are readily available in 2017, all you need is a voice, an idea and a standard Soundcloud account for example. Lots of people have started podcasts in the past few months and the same could be said for blogs – it’s brilliant! We’re diversifying the market, not saturating it and there is room for us all at the top. I think that the rise of podcasts is an amazing thing and it should be widely embraced, especially by young people as the “future” generation.


My top 3 podcasts currently are:

The Adzvice Podcast

I found this podcast on twitter and decided to give Episode 1 a listen. It was really interesting – the topic was “Quarter Life Crisis” and it featured a thought-provoking discussion between @JameliaObsessed and @ImAdeAkins (the host). Whilst I’m only 21 myself, I could relate to a lot of the points raised surrounding the pressures that young people face: why do you go to work? whose life are you actually impacting? what is your true purpose in life? It reminded me that life is too short to waste time on things that do not fulfill you. Jamelia even spoke of how she quit her day-job to pursue her own business, Treasure Tress which is a UK monthly subscription box for natural hair products. After that, I found myself listening to Episode 2, Episode 3, Episode 4 and so on. I like The Adzvice Podcast because more than anything, it’s just really relatable. The guests on the show are also full of gems and pearls of wisdom that I think anyone, regardless of age, can learn from. Some of the latest topics include: Money and time management, goal-setting, self-investment and the importance of confidence. Give it a listen here!

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The Fly Society Podcast

I had been searching for a good Christian podcast that I could relate to (that wasn’t just a sermon) for so long. They’re surprisingly hard to find! After trailing through a few mediocre ones, I stumbled across The Fly Society on twitter. This American podcast is hosted by Michael Osikoya, JJ Lyrik and Joshua Dillard. The first episode I listened to was titled “I’m a flirt, is that a sin?” and I thought hmm – that’s a very interesting question. Many opinions were thrown out there but I particularly agreed with the point that flirting can be construed as a sin because:

The definition of flirting is to “behave as though sexually attracted to someone, but playfully rather than with serious intentions.” – I believe this is deceptive and we are called to be honest, plain and simple. ” (Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.” – Colossians 3:9-10)

They also raised a funny point about “controlling your glow” i.e. being aware that some people may be attracted to you, and therefore acting with caution. To avoid hurting someone, this involves not doing or saying anything that may be interpreted as forward, flirtatious behaviour, especially when you have no serious intentions. They concluded that ultimately God sees your heart and knows your intentions (“A person may think their own ways are right, but the Lord weighs the heart.” – Proverbs 21:2)

Other topics discussed on their podcast include how to forgive; dating; divorce; is masturbation a sin; male ego and fragility; doubting pastoral leadership and so much more. I love this podcast because it deals with real life issues that Christians navigating modern society face on a daily basis. They are entertaining and they are not afraid to discuss “taboo” subjects in the church. Most importantly, they back up their points with scriptures! Give it a listen here.

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The Receipts Podcast

This podcast is hilarious! As usual, I came across it on twitter. It’s 4 girls – @GhanasFinestx, @PhoebeParke, @Tolly_T and @MilenaSanchezx talking absolutely unfiltered about relationships, everyday life experiences and grown-woman stuff. I started off by listening to their episode “Celibacy and open relationships”, as I’m abstaining from sex before marriage, the title peaked my interest. I appreciated that some of the co-hosts brought a Christian perspective to the topic, whilst being honest about the fact that temptation is a real thing that we all go through.

This is definitely quite an explicit podcast, in the sense that the hosts are very liberal, non-judgmental and no topic is off limits. Other topics covered in their episodes include cheating, interracial dating, dating single parents and more. If you enjoy girl talk, this one may be for you. Listen here!

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I also want to give honorary mentions to two other podcasts that I enjoy. One of them is co-hosted by my friend Ra’ifah also known as @RecklessRai on twitter. She started a podcast last year with her 2 male friends called Mostly Lit. Their podcast discusses books primarily but through an exploration of “the intersection of literature, millenial wellness and black pop-culture.” I highly recommend it for book lovers! The hosts are all very intelligent people with a sense of humour, which is a great combination.

**Also, Mostly Lit will be recording with a live audience on Saturday 25th March 2017 in Waterstones, Gower Street, London. You don’t want to miss these guys live in action! Get your tickets here.

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The second podcast I wanted to give a shout out to is Guess What Podcast which is hosted by @JwandeS and @Delzz_Smith. I came across their podcast when one of my most controversial blog posts to date, My Friends Don’t Support Me, featured on their show in Episode 3. These two have great chemistry on-air and are very easy and interesting to listen to. They talk about everything from “daily dramas, controversial issues, the music world and even our crazy generation.” They’re fairly new to the game so you guys should go and show them some love!

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So if you’re reading this blog post today and you are/were one of the people chiming “everyone has a podcast now!”, “it’s a trend!”, “I must have missed the podcast memo”, “what’s with all the podcasts?” etc. then hopefully I have managed to convince you that podcasts have the potential to be very powerful. I suggest, instead of questioning why everyone has supposedly jumped on a bandwagon, why not take the time to appreciate a new generation of creativity?

To those creatives that are podcasters – I want to say keep doing you. People will always try and bash a popular wave but you mustn’t allow that type of negativity to stunt your growth. Your craft is much needed! You have a powerful platform; use it well! I’m so excited to see where the world of podcasting takes us in years to come.

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Finally, to my readers, if you do decide to check out any of these podcasts that I have mentioned, let me know what you think!

Do you have any podcast recommendations for me? (I’m into Christian faith/lifestyle podcasts, self development, female empowerment, black culture and Nigerian diaspora type things).  


God bless you!

Wunms.

 Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other. – Galatians 5:26

Body Confidence: “Am I Too… Skinny?”

I really detest the word skinny. It doesn’t even sound nice when it falls out of my mouth. In reality, it’s just another word but unfortunately I attach the word skinny to unpleasant memories sometimes. 

I didn’t think I was too skinny until I was forced to believe it. As a young child I never understood what people really wanted from me. What was I supposed to look like? Kids, although inexperienced and innocent, can be so ruthless… especially towards eachother. Playground-talk really hurts. I remember back in primary school the “fat” kids would be mercilessly teased for being overweight and yet I’d be just as relentlessly teased for… not weighing enough! People would purposely push past me and pretend like I was invisible, like I was withering away or something. As I’m typing this, it’s occurring to me that I was probably a textbook-case bullying victim. Wow. I’ve never really stopped to accept that as a fact, but here we are.

Evidently, I’ve always been camera ready!

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Monday Musings: 97 Days #ChristyleLove

Hello everyone, hope you’re all doing well.

I need your attention for a minute.

Guess what? We’ve got 97 days to go until arguably the most anticipated day of the calendar year for the majority of society (aside from your birthday maybe). A day of rare family bonding, excessive eating and indulgence, an Eastenders hour-long special and the sharing of overpriced gifts.

Christmas!!!!

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Monday Musings in a Minute (2): Trusting God

How and why should we trust God when things aren’t going “to plan”?

 

In hindsight, my first year of university went so smoothly. There was nothing that I really wanted that I did not get. I networked my socks off, made great friends, my grades were solid and my CV was gleaming.

To put it simply, I couldn’t remember what it felt like to truly struggle, to truly feel rejection, or have a seemingly important door not just closed but slammed shut in my face with no explanation. 

You see it’s very easy to trust God when your life is going “to plan” Continue reading “Monday Musings in a Minute (2): Trusting God”